Sunday Book Review – The Girl From Huizen, by Paulette Mahurin #WWII #Historicalfiction

This week my Sunday Book Review is for a book by one of my favorite authors of historical fiction, Paulette Mahurin – The Girl From Huizen. Why I enjoy her stories so much is not only that book after book I read in this genre, it never ceases to astonish me at the cruelty of mankind, but this author seeks out the humanity in others, and in the chaos, at a time where there wasn’t much civility. This book is no exception. This is a tale about Dutch teen Roz Jansen who lives on a farm in Huizen, a village in the province of Northern Holland. A courageous story of true events.

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The German occupation of the Netherlands brings with it food shortages, harsh treatment for resistants and deportation of Jews. The changes dramatically affect Rosamond Jansen’s life on her family’s farm on the outskirts of Huizen. When she finds herself under constant surveillance and oppressive treatment in her government typist job and the Nazis deport her best friend, her resentment turns to fear and a deepening hatred. Verbal cruelty, belittlement and emotional turmoil take their toll on her until a man arrives at the farm who, along with her uncle from Amsterdam, enlist her father into resistance work. When her father does not return home, Rosamond, too, is drawn into resistance activity. As more people disappear from her life, her involvement goes deeper, bringing her to a villa in Huizen where a woman named Madelief has a secret. As Rosamond becomes close to Madelief and the secret is revealed, her life starts to unravel.

Based on actual events at the villa, The Girl from Huizen tells the story of how Rosamond, working with Madelief, dared to defy the SS and their collaborators. But this is no ordinary Resistance versus Nazi story, rather it is a story of a shocking and unexpected unfolding where flames of tension ignite the page, as loss and grief consume and drive the girl from Huizen. It is a powerful story about the trusting friendship between two women. Ultimately The Girl from Huizen is a homage to the brave resistance members who risked everything to fight against Nazi oppression. Their efforts saved thousands upon thousands of lives.

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This author never disappoints in taking us right into her stories. Her characters are richly portrayed, as she takes us into both, the scenes of the action, and inside her character’s heads, having us feeling all their emotions as this tale unfolds. A well researched and gripping story from beginning to end. This incredible story had me turning the pages and picking up the book every chance I had.

It was a peaceful village in Gooimeer until the SS, Gestapo, and Dutch snitches and traitors turned Gooi into a starving village as most crops grown were mandatory donations to feed the enemy. As the war progressed and Hitler demanded his wolves to frequently check households for hidden Jews on a regular basis because he wanted to eliminate all the ‘vermin’, no home was safe from an SS invasion at any given time for spot checks.

Roz had been through enough already, watching her best friend Emma taken by the SS, and her job turned into typing for the SS. The cruelty of what was happening in her once peaceful life, had taken its toll.

When her father doesn’t return from a resistance mission, Roz was determined to join the resistance to help save children from being captured by the dirty Nazis. Roz leaves her job to help out on the farm, and is eventually introduced to Madelief, who she learns plays a big role in saving and hiding Jewish children (true events). And Madelief holds a deep secret about the villa which she is currently dwelling in, and using as a temporary holding, safehouse, before the children’s final safe destination. Once all is revealed by Madelief, and the relentless oppression, Roz’s life feels like spinning out of control.

This story will grip you through every mission taken by the resistance – risking their own lives to save the lives of innocent neighbors and strangers. Selfless and often hungry themselves, but sharing with someone worse off. Reality checks when Roz takes in pause to remember what it felt like to walk in shoes with soles, when she could enjoy the outdoors and life without fears off being stopped or raided by the Nazis who seemed to be everywhere, or where a sliver of chocolate could linger on her tongue long enough to take her back to plentiful times. These things reminded her of the simple pleasures that were once part of her life. Despite the climate of war, survival, and trying to help others, risking her own life, her strength to go on, despite her losses – both in life, and of life, a very important friendship made with Madelief kept her determination fueled to save the children.

As expected from this author, so much of the human condition in this story, and a wonderful telling of watching Roz turn from a mere girl to a young woman of maturity as the times had everyone growing up much too fast. This could be my favorite of many books I’ve read by this unsurprisingly, best selling author.

©DGKaye2023

New Reviews Still Rolling in for Fifteen First Times

It’s that time again for a shameless promotion. I’m happy to share some of the new reviews that have come in for Fifteen First Times. As authors, we know that every new sterling review we receive for our books is like a tonic of feel good when we know our writing has connected with readers. I also enjoy sharing reviews to give the reviewers some recognition for taking the time to leave their thoughts after reading. So with no further ado . . .

From United Kingdom

Terry Tyler

5.0 out of 5 stars Days Gone Bye…

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 26 July 2023

4.5*

I so enjoyed reading these snapshots of D. G. Kaye’s life, growing up in the 1960s, 70s and 80s – partly because I discovered that she is just two months older than me, so it’s a world I know about … mostly!*

I love the conversational aspect of the essays; the way Kaye writes is so readable, so down-to earth that it’s like she’s talking just to you, from the first kiss to the first love, to the first car and apartment, and, more seriously, the first bereavement of someone her own age. This one was so heartrending that I found myself missing Alba too, a woman I know only from this one short story.

I think the piece that made me smile and nod the most was the ‘first diet’ – years of yo-yo dieting and obsession with what is put in one’s mouth, the bane of many a young (and not so young) woman’s life. The daft things you try to lose weight. Definitely a generational thing; I remember my mother (born in the 1920s) telling me that when she was a young woman, you were just the shape you were, and you didn’t give it a great deal of thought. Before advertising got serious!

Anyway, this is great, definitely recommend it to anyone. It’s not that long; you could probably read it in a couple of afternoons. Ideal for a nice bit of holiday reading, too 🙂

Lauren Scott

5.0 out of 5 stars Delightful and poignant memoriesReviewed in the United States on June 23, 2023

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I’ve always enjoyed D.G. Kaye’s conversational writing style. This book is no exception to her honest and entertaining narrative. She has compiled a collection of ‘firsts’ from her teen years relatable to all readers. I felt so at ease that I read this collection in one sitting, feeling like we were comfortably chatting over a glass of wine. These memories invited me to stroll down memory lane, recalling crazy crash diets, first kiss, first boyfriend, and first broken heart that felt like it would never mend. Her amusing fascination with shoes made me chuckle; how she managed those heels is beyond me. I laughed out loud when I read about the first hair dye episode. Her first car was a Ford Mustang given by her wonderful father, and while my first car wasn’t, her story evoked memories of when I bought a blue Mustang a few years later with equal excitement.

Kaye’s anecdotes are witty, engaging, and poignant. She has no trouble sharing her vulnerability. Low self-esteem plagued her in those years, but with her outgoing personality and wild sense of fashion, she rose above it, growing into the confident woman she is today. Being a teenager isn’t easy. Those years are about finding ourselves, figuring out who we are, and Kaye succeeded with spirit!

Kaye ends the collection with an emotive tribute to her late husband, her only true love. My heart still aches for her loss. She writes in her dedication, “To those who’ve been there, done that, and learned from. And for those who’ve yet to venture out and overcome.” She couldn’t have expressed the purpose of this delightful book any better. Highly recommended for anyone who enjoys a heartwarming memoir and a stroll down memory lane.

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Lawrence Joseph

5.0 out of 5 stars An Enchanting Tour of LifeReviewed in the United States on March 1, 2023

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I might be in my sixth decade of life, but DG Kaye’s memoir, Fifteen First Times, brings me blissfully back in time as if I were reliving my youth. She includes tender moments, budding independence, and painful firsts. I felt as if I were sitting across the couch from Kaye, sipping crisp white wine and exchanging stories of our beloved but challenging past.

She draws you in with our commonalities as women, from our first love to menstruation, a hysterical shoe obsession, bad hair decisions, first apartments, and broken hearts. As I read through each story, I laughed, cried, and empathized with Kaye’s Fifteen Firsts. It is a bold, funny, and touching read about life’s endearing moments. An enchanting novel for fans of delightful memoirs.

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Reviewed by Jaye Marie and Anita Dawes on their blog, and Amazon below.

https://jenanita01.com/2023/05/19/fifteen-first-times-beginnings-a-collection-of-indelible-firsts-review-personaltransformation-pokercubster/comment-page-1/#comment-86967

Anita Dawes

5.0 out of 5 stars a most fascinating read…Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 19 May 2023

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A Collection of Indelible Firsts

My First Car

I share many memories of my first times with Debby and the most memorable for me, was my first car and learning to drive it. This was my first taste of independence and I loved every minute of being behind the wheel.

For The love of Shoes

Shoes struck a different note with me, however, as being tall, I apparently have rather large feet. Finding shoes that fit has always been a nightmare for me.

First and Last Love

Although I share many of Debby’s Fifteen First Times, I never did find the love of my life, although there were plenty of almosts. I am envious of the love she shared with G and very sad that she must mourn him with every single day…

This intriguing book is so many of our lives in a nutshell…

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Darlene Foster

5.0 out of 5 stars Easy to read and relatable stories

Reviewed in Canada on April 26, 2023

We have all had our firsts in life; first kiss, first love, first death etc. These events are typically unforgettable and shape who we are. This easy-to-read, relatable collection of short stories brings our own firsts to mind. Reading a book written by D.G. Kaye is like having a chat with a good friend, reminiscing about the past and sharing tears and laughter. I enjoyed reading about the author’s European trip as a naive and enthusiastic teenager, her excitement of moving into her own place and the horror of a hair-dying disaster! An enjoyable read along with a loving tribute to her dear husband.

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Thanks again to you all for your reading! Happy readers make writing so rewarding. ❣

©DGKaye2023

Smorgasbord Blog Magazine – Spiritual Awareness – #Vibes by D. G. Kaye | Smorgasbord Blog Magazine

Welcome to my latest edition in my Spiritual Awareness series at Sally Cronin’s Smorgasbord Blog Magazine. Today I’m talking about #Vibes and Energy.

Explore the spiritual side of our natures as D.G. Kaye shares her experiences and research into this element of our lives.

You can find part eighteen of the series: Soul Contracts – Choosing our Family Before Birth

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Spiritual Awareness – Vibes

Welcome back to my Spiritual Awareness series. Today’s discussion is about vibrations, the sensory internal feelings we receive from our immediate surroundings. We can’t see them, but we can certainly feel them. Vibes are energy exuded into the atmosphere. This is because our bodies are composed of molecules, which facilitate electro-magnetic energy. So, when we say, we got a good or bad vibe, that’s because magnetic energy emanates through the atmosphere, and we can feel it.

Have you ever walked into a room full of negative and bad energy? Then you will know the cliched saying: ‘You could cut the air with a knife.” Just like when we watch a movie that makes us cry, how did that happen? Because the character’s emotional vibrations jumped off the screen and made us feel what they were feeling.

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Vibes and thoughts

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Vibes are the energy we give off. Our mood, expressions, our tone of voice, all give off vibes. Vibes are our alert system to the temperature of our surroundings. Our thoughts and emotions create the vibrations we give off.

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Vibes are like a sixth sense or intuitive energy that flows within, alerting us that something is off, or on the contrary, something exciting is going on. The good vibes may well feel like that butterfly feeling within we sometimes feel when we’re excited, apprehensive, or forewarned. All these emotions stem from the vibes we pick up.

The more in tune we are with ourselves and surroundings, the more our awareness heightens. If you want to raise your energetic vibration level, do things that make your body and soul happy. Simply going for a walk outside, taking a yoga class, doing meditations, and anything that gives our soul a lift, will help us achieve a higher vibration. When our being is in a good place with ourselves and we smile at someone, offer compassion, good manners, we are giving off good spiritual vibes, and spreading the contagion.

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Even our body language gives off a vibe. If we see someone looking stern or miserable with their arms folded, we can almost feel their anger or unhappiness, that’s because of the energy they are giving off. Every emotion gives off an energy for anyone nearby to notice. If we’re in a room with a bunch of downer people, we aren’t likely to want to hang around there. Alternatively, when we walk into a happy gathering where people are mingling and laughter is in the air, instinctively, we want to be part of that scene, because we feel good and comfortable in that scenario. When we hear an upbeat song that brings us a happy memory, we can’t help but feel like we’re vibing high, and motivated. Our behaviors and expressions are reflections of what is currently going on in our subconscious.

Vibes and thoughts

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Suffice it to say, all our internal emotions are instinctively emoted through our body language and facial expressions. Even our silences and tone of voice we speak in, emits a vibe. . . please read the conclusion at Sally’s blog. . .

Source: Smorgasbord Blog Magazine – Spiritual Awareness – #Vibes by D. G. Kaye | Smorgasbord Blog Magazine

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©DGKaye2023

Sunday Book Review – Living Without the One You Cannot Live Without by Natasha Josefowitz, Ph.D.

Today my Sunday book review is for a most moving book – Living Without the One You Cannot Live Without, written by professor and keynote speaker, poet and author Natasha Josefowitz, Ph.D. in 2013 after losing her soulmate, well into her 80s. This is a short book, written in freeverse style as the author talks about her daily life, covering every single emotion, longing, and her daily struggle to go on living without the love of her life. At 96 years old, she shares her last blogpost, posted on her blog April 4th of this year, after her passing in March of 2023. She is finally back together with the love of her life.

Our Beliefs Impact Our Brains Influencing Our Behaviors

Posted on  by Natasha Josefowitz

Dear readers,
This is the last column I will be writing. I have been writing to you for over 40 years. You may not know it, but I will be 97 and I think my time has come to put down my pen. Thank you for all your comments and letters. One of the highlights of my life has been writing this column and hearing from all of you.
Warmly,
Natasha

You can read the rest of this post at Natasha’s blog:

https://natashaswords.com/blog/

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About Natasha

Now into her 90’s, Natasha Josefowitz, Ph.D., has lived a full life. Some might argue she has lived enough for several lives.

To say that she has been a trailblazer would be an understatement.

In 1980, Natasha wrote Paths to Power: A Woman’s Guide from First Job to Top Executive (Addison Wesley 1980), which quickly became a bestselling guide for women in the workplace. Natasha taught the first college course in the country on women in management. In the mid-eighties, she became one of the first female members of Rotary International in California.

Natasha has hosted her own television segment, appeared regularly on NPR, wrote her own nationally syndicated column, and appeared on Larry King Show, Sally Jesse Raphael, and Dr. Ruth, to name a few.

While Natasha has written several other bestselling books, her passion is poetry.

Now, at 90 years young, having lost her brother, her son, her husband, and most recently her son-in-law, it is Natasha’s strength, her passion for living life, and candor that is truly infectious. Living Without the One You Cannot Live Without (November 2013), is perhaps the most telling book ever written about pre and post grief. It is a collection of powerful, gritty, candid, and inspiring poems about living life after loss. It was recently named to Kirkus Reviews Best Books of 2013.

In 2015 she was inducted into the San Diego County Women’s Hall of Fame and was the Honoree at the University of California, San Diego Women’s Conference.

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Blurb:

From the first, life-changing terminal diagnosis to a new way of life as a widow, the deeply moving journey of mourning a beloved spouse’s death is the subject of Natasha Josefowitz’s candid, uplifting collection of poems, Living Without the One You Cannot Live Without. Drawing from her own personal experiences navigating the grief of this seemingly unbearable loss, the author’s tender and thoughtful perspective is certain to offer hope and healing to anyone who is embarking on his or her own journey of grief and healing process, regardless of age and life stage.

With rich insight and raw honesty, Living Without the One You Cannot Live Without guides the reader from mourning to recovery, using simple, relatable poetry that casts an unflinching eye on the day-to-day experiences entailed with losing a loved one. The collection starts with a diagnosis of cancer and travels through the moments experienced in doctors’ offices, hospice care, the funeral, and on to the reality of a life alone. Examining the grief process chronologically, the poems progress from the painful early days to the second year, when healing has occurred. The book then culminates with a strong message of hope, as the grieving person emerges once again as a self-sufficient, confident person who is facing the next adventure life has to offer.

Natasha Josefowitz was inspired to put her poems on paper by her own experience with the death of her husband, as well as the grief she witnessed among so many of her friends. She now endeavors to help others who are confronting the unimaginable end of a central relationship. With compassion, clarity, and profound humanity, Living Without the One You Cannot Live Without is certain to offer solace and support to those who are bereft, and who will benefit from empathy and emotional connection as they work through their own grief toward help and healing.

My 5 Star Review:

This is a short book of 93 pages, with each page sharing how the weight of grief affects every single action in living without her other half, Josefowitz writes her emotions and thoughts on how each aspect of her life, and how nothing remains the same and how the most menial parts of daily life are no longer the same. Written in freeverse style – not so much poetry as sharing her thoughts on what life is now like as she grows from grieving to finally learning how to move her grief and continue living by learning to live with her lost husband ‘in her heart’, as final acceptance. She shares with us her own stories that many grievers can nod their heads to in confirmation as we know exactly of every word, emotion, and trigger us grievers endure while trying to make some semblance of our new lives.

“Familiarity has gone strange,” says Natasha. She speaks of things that are new that were once the mundane and part of life – things left in drawers – “objects from an ongoing life interrupted midstream by death”, chores that are now hers, time – “There is a constant presence of his absence, he is everywhere, yet nowhere…”, long nights alone, no one to share her daily grind with, talking to her dead husband, progression of time not easing all the missing, the wrong things people say to us, no more intimate sharing of food, stories, secrets, love, and she speaks of the gratitude for single friends, as ‘widows are no longer invited for dinner by couples’. Everything in this book are a cycle of a new life she didn’t ask for, and so relatable for anyone who has ever loved and lost.

Below are some snippets of excerpts that felt as though I could have written them.

Moving Quotes:

Hospice

“…I don’t know where to turn

I want to leave

to go somewhere safe

where we can turn back the clock

to when he was healthy

it would be nice

for me to be unconscious, too

for a little while…”

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Dismantling His Office

“…there is a pervasive sadness

about objects once owned

and treasured

by a man I loved

that now need to find

usefulness elsewhere …”

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The Half Person

“…he left me with

reeling from realization

that I’m only half a person

the other half is gone

the other half is dead

we were one together

a unit, yin and yang

a whole side of me

has been torn away

and it’s bleeding

from the open, ragged wound

it’s not a clean cut

it’s pieces of heart

and pieces of gut…”

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Only Silence

“The sweetest sound in the world

was the sound of his peaceful breathing

as he lay next to me in bed

that sound secured the night

now that there is only silence

I do not feel safe anymore.”

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Perhaps my favorite verse as this sounds like me pleading and bargaining for same signs:

“Where Are You?

Give me a sign

blow out the candle

rustle the curtain

make a sound in the wind

touch my cheek

with a breath of air

give me a sign

so I will know

you are here

somewhere with me

please let me feel you

in the room

in the air

in the energy

pulsating in the universe

my love

where are you?”

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©DGKaye2023

Writer’s Tips – July Edition – Novel Dont’s, Mastodon, Computer Fixes, A.I. Tools, DMCA Violations

Welcome to my July Edition of my best curated Writer’s Tips including – How Not to Start a Novel, Fixing Dialogue Tags by Anne R. Allen, Hugh Roberts with some new blog tips on How to Add Mastodon to your social media share buttons on your blogs, Jacqui Murray with some quick computer fixes, Deborah Jay with some new and helpful A.I. tools, Copyright Infringement help by Kathy Steinemann.

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Deborah Jay has a post about some useful A.I. Apps for Writers

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Anne R. Allen with 8 great tips about How Not to Start a Novel

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Anne R. Allen shares 9 Common Problems using Dialogue Tags and How to Fix Them

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Hugh Roberts with a great tutorial on How to Add a Mastodon Button to your blogs

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Jacqui Murray has created a fantastic Infographic on How to Find Quick Fixes for some of the technical issues that arise on our computers

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Help for reporting Copyright Infringement/Plagiarism Violations by Kathy Steinemann

https://kathysteinemann.com/Musings/dmca/

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©DGKaye2023

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D.G. Kaye Is Live In Interview with Author Judith Barrow on Showboat TV, U.K.

I was recently invited for an author interview on the Booksmart show with Welsh author Judith Barrow on the Welsh based online TV station – Showboat.TV .

Admittedly, this is my first live ‘video’ interview. It was a fantastic experience and an eye-opener about how animated I look on video. But I’m sure if you tied my hands up, I wouldn’t be able to speak. Lol. We had a lovely pre-chat and after-chat, especially being that Judith and I have been friends for almost ten years and have never chatted before face-to-face.

The interview is approximately twenty minutes long. So, if you’d like to join us by listening to Booksmart, you will pick up a few tips on what it’s like to be writing nonfiction and memoir as opposed to fiction.

Showboat is a paid for online TV show app. There is a small membership to join, but thankfully, many interviews are given FREE showing for a week. Right now, and for the rest of the week, and possibly for two, you can watch our interview live on Showboat TV by clicking on the link below.

I do hope you get a chance to listen. As always, I’d love your feedback. I hope you enjoy!

https://www.showboat.tv/v3/index.html?fbclid=IwAR3TgR7uQepFHrUO9W3qxvhUFRCkmSPKeo5BpcbeO5KskCMcdKbCMtQlwew

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©DGKaye2023

Sunday Book Review – Infected: SFV-1 Series, Book 1 by Terry Tyler #thriller #dystopian

Welcome to my Sunday Book Review. Today I’m reviewing Terry Tyler’s newest release – Infected: SFV-1, book 1 in this new dystopian thriller series about quarentines, and a deadly virus that hits England. I love Terry’s writing. Not all her books are dystopian, and those are the ones I typically read, but I know many love Terry’s thrillers, so I’m glad I gave this one a go.

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Blurb:

‘Every time someone gets bitten, that’s one more of them, and one less of us.’

SFV-1: a virulent virus that sends its hosts into a state of extreme rage and ravenous hunger. When it attacks the UK, 127 people are infected within the first hour.

London wife and mother Cat is taking part in TV reality show Year Out, on a remote Scottish island. Her world turns dark when the TV crew fails to arrive for the monthly health check—her one lifeline to her family is now broken.

Completely absorbed in the commission of a lifetime, artist Norah ignores what is taking place outside the safety of her studio, until the virus reaches her hometown and a shocking event jolts her back into reality.

Lion, a stressed out marketing consultant, is enjoying a month away from his hectic online life in northern Cumbria when he encounters a worrying sight in a nearby village. Is it some kind of zombie? It can’t be, can it?

Terry Tyler’s Infected is her 25th publication. Book #2 of the SFV-1 Series, Darkness, is now available, with Book #3, Reset, coming soon.

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My 5 Star Review:

Slowly but surely the city and country is shutting down in fear of being bitten by one who has succumbed to the mutated monkey bite, or caught making any contact with another’s bite. The mutated monkey virus is spreading faster than Covid. The people are eventually forced to leave their homes to forage and pillage anywhere for food and gasoline to try and escape what is quickly becoming an apocalyptic UK. Once bitten, people go mad with a ravenous hunger for blood and flesh. There is only one way to survive, and that is by having to kill each infected person encountered because it’s now, kill or be killed.

Meanwhile, Cat is off in seclusion in Scotland as part of the reality show she is on – having to survive for one year with no contact to the outside world except the monthly health check ins and call to home – neither have been happening lately.

The three main characters – Cat, Norah, and Lion are all out of the loop as the virus expands throughout the UK, from its beginning in London. Norah is busy creating art in her studio for a big project, and Lion was taking a break from his job in Cumbria.

Tyler keeps us turning the pages as we get to know quite a few characters in this dystopian tale, their thoughts and strengths as they strive to survive the plague-like virus. Unlikely connections are formed as the people scavenge to find ways to survive. Each character shares their own point of view in each chapter as they all converge into the storyline.

Much later in the book, we get a little glimpse into how this pandemonium all began. It seems greed and glory are behind the evil that man can do, as always.

Book 2 is already out and as the author suggests, to read in order to follow what happens with the characters. Book 1 sets the scene and characters for what’s to come and the fallout. If you enjoy fictional dystopian tales with rich characters, riveting plots, and gripping action, you will love Tyler’s, Infected. And once you read infected you will be waiting to find out what happens next, just as I am. So be sure to pick up both books because once invested you will want to find out what happens next, and left wondering how on earth this dystopian madness can be stopped. I know I surely am.

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©DGKaye2023

Say my Name, Say my Name

What’s in a name? Better yet, why are some names so confusing for some people to pronounce, no matter how simple?

Do you know anyone for almost a lifetime who still doesn’t know how to spell your name?

How about having a four-letter last name that people cannot only not spell correctly, but also mispronounce? Even better, my first name is spelled wrong by over 90% of people who formally correspond with me, that would be Debby, not Debbie.

Ya, that be me. And to think that all through my school years – elementary through high school, when I’d cringe at roll calls because it seemed no teacher of mine ever seemed to know how to pronounce my last name back then too. I used to dream about the day I’d marry to kick away my maiden name to one that someone could say correctly – or spell for that matter.

Back in the school days, my family name was Kushnir. This is pronounced ‘Kush – as cushion, nir – as in nerd without the d’. But sadly, I never heard it pronounced correctly. It always sounded like ‘Kush – as in, rhymes with lush, and nir – as in, rhymes with fear’. I could never wrap my head around it, especially from teachers, I would have expected better. So everyday at roll call I’d suck it up and prepare for humiliation as the letter K approached. The kids who found it funny would think of some more embarrassing versions and rhymes – like ‘tush’. I’d dream of the day I could change my name, but never figured four simple letters would be a condundrum for so many.

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So, I get married, and happily take on what I thought was my husband’s simple and short last name. I thought, alas, a simple four-letter name. Not. It turns out, the last name Gies is a puzzle or a mouthful for many.

Anyone who has ever addressed me formally by my married name has NEVER said it correctly the first time. I mean how many variations can one get from G I E S? Well, apparently the most common name I get called is Mrs. Giles. Yes, you read right. Where did the ‘L’ come from? Is my name an optical illusion? On the off-chance someone doesn’t imagine an ‘L’ in my name, the pronunciation becomes Gies – as in ‘Guise’. Seriously?! (Did you catch the punctuation mark I used before this sentence? See more about the Interrobang here.) I felt it was appropriately used here – exclamation and question mark conjoined.

Gies sounds like ‘Geese’. . . like the birds.

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Surely I can’t be the only person around whose last name seems to be a tongue-twister for many?

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©DGKaye2023