Baby's day out

There is no joy equal to holding a day old baby!
I experienced it last week. It was serene.

I have read Osho Rajneesh say “A baby gives birth to a mother”
It’s after the birth of the baby that a woman becomes a mother and a man becomes a father and their parents ‘grand parents’ and so on and so forth.

A kid marks the starting of a lot of definitions for relationships
May be that’s why new born is referred as a bundle of joy.

I always thought, a woman can not be a mother if she can not see her child in every child. May be this is a broader aspect to explain but I always felt so. Contrary to this I have seen lots of women who differentiate clearly between her own child and other children.

This kind of instances has given raise to various questions in my mind.

Does a woman become mother only after giving birth ? Is it natural tendency to differentiate between your biological child and other children?

Well I have my own perspective to this but as every other relationship in the universe a child also brings with it a lot of questions which each one of us can answer in our own perspective :-)

Its better we follow our own thoughts in regard with out criticizing others :-)

Ignorance is not always a bliss

One of my colleagues who held me in high regards spoke to me in a rude way some times.
I was not given a good appraisal score.

Two unrelated matters have taught me some what similar lessons.
Don’t worry about the world :-)

It was my colleague’s choice to think that I am one of the best human beings around and naturally I enjoyed that appreciation. Even now it’s his choice to think that I am just an ordinary being! For some time I did worry about the absence of that appreciation, that respect and affection in his eyes but finally I decided “Forget it”. I never behaved in a particular fashion to please some one so why worry, when they rejected my behavior.

The second one did make me upset. I knew I had not achieved any great thing in this period. But certainly I deserved better things and the saddest part in this was, with out even informing me I was given such a rating. (Or I was foolish enough not to notice that rating). I am not worried about the money I lost by not getting a good rating, I am just worried about my ignorance, the sheer ignorance and negligence which always makes me act in a weird way.

Both the above incidents have taught me to be myself. With out worrying, about the consequences. But of course I need to be more cautious, can not afford to be ignorant any more :-) You can not blame others for not being sensitive enough, not being true to them selves but you can change your self in all the ways to become more stronger.

“Dokha to zarur hua hain humaare saath,
Lekin shikayat karke kyaa faaayda?
Aankhen band kar baite the hum
Jab ki yeh nahin tha koi kaayda!”