As complex,
necessary, used and useful Communication is, there are still only two variables
that matter to focus on when honing in on the power and function of ways to
communicate. 1 - the conversations we have with other. 2 - the conversations we
have with ourselves. Both means of communication are important and the later
can be viewed as the more important. Yet, both need to have the same quality
and basic formula to make them efficient. And by efficient, I mean that they
formulate win-win situations, open doors of opportunity and possibility, move
things progressively moving forward, help to ask the right questions to
formulate the best answers geared for achieving a goal.
1 - The
conversations we have with others whether they are dialogues or monologues
don’t make a difference because both are used to gain an end result. Communication’s
main focus should be on what the objective is and then finding the best
communicative tools to arrive at the desired results. Communication is by far
the most valuable tool we have. As humans we have the highest level of
communication power and possibilities, yet we don’t use it.
2 - The
conversations we have with ourselves can be viewed as the most valuable means
of communication simply because all communication with others starts within
ourselves. The thoughts that run through our minds before we speak, present or
engage in a conversation of any sort start in our own heads.
There are
many reasons why people don’t like to communicate or haven’t taken the time to
study the tools, techniques or tips and tricks to make it easier and more
efficient - FEAR. Fear of being seen, lack of confidence of being heard,
uncomfortable with who they think they are, fear of rejection or being
unacceptable or good enough in a different language or the information of what
they speak of… the list is endless. However, all of this can be changed. And it
all starts with the conversations you have with yourself.
Building
confidence starts with what you tell yourself and how you see things and
yourself in the outside world. It’s starts with your perception and what you
think of things and yourself. Of which any of it can at any point be changed,
adjusted, tweaked… Simply by starting to tell yourself different things by
interpreting the conversations you already have with yourself as something
else.
Confidence
on in a variety means is the main killer for presentation gone bad,
negotiations failing and deals lost…. It’s the setup, the previous
communication we have about it and ourselves doing it that drives the results.
Hopefully,
this little perspective on communication has opened your mind to a new way of
seeing how to make communicating better, where it starts and how fear gets
caught in the net of good communication. Change your perception, change your
thoughts - changes your results.
Where
Thought Goes - Energy Flows - Life Grows
DEAN DI NARDI
