Is there an expectation that people's toilets should have an air freshener in? Like a spray air freshener?

We always have air freshener in both our toilets in case friends or family get caught short when visiting us or even to freshen the bathroom after having a wee if necessary, so I hate it if I go to a friend/family members house and they have none.

I get some people may be affected by asthma but surely if you had asthma you wouldn't use it?

We have a glade air freshener at work that sprays into the space where the wash handbasins are for example.

A continuation of our continuing discussion of our favourite private citizens! 😁

sorry this is a bit of a ramble

my 3 year old is in hospital at the minute after surgery. I’ve been here with him pretty much the whole time and went home for a bit earlier to shower and get some stuff etc.

I left him with his dad/my bf.

Apparently they went into the playroom and he’s fallen and now he’s got a HUGE bruise on his face. it’s really bad, like straight away you can see it and it’s swollen.

I asked what happened and he just said he fell over playing. I asked what he hit his face on and he couldn’t actually tell me properly?? Then he admitted he was on his phone when it happened.

I’m so angry I can’t even explain it. He’s 3, I know kids fall over and accidents happen but he’s in hospital after surgery. Surely you should be watching him properly?? Especially when I’ve literally had to leave him there with you because I needed to go home for a couple of hours.

And now I feel awful for leaving him.

The nurses have seen the bruise and are checking him obviously, I’m not ignoring it, but I’m sat here feeling sick about the whole thing.

I don’t even know if I’m being unreasonable because I’m so stressed and tired anyway.

I just can’t get past the fact he was on his phone while he was supposed to be looking after him.

Sorry this probably makes no sense.

Visited a really large M&S - the whole range in store and lots of available sizes.
I has always found them to be a generous sizing and have sized down.

I’ve recently lost about a stone, but yet today everything was cut so small. There are some beautiful pieces, silky brown dress and blue mini skirt that are part of their current advertising. But they are cut so slinky, tight waistbands etc
anyone else experienced this?

Engaged for 6 months, been together over 2 years. Don't know if I'm getting the ick or being picky or what it is. I've known how he was about his health pretty much from around 6 months into dating him, I hoped he would take a different stance, but it's driving me up the pole now.

This will be the second time around for both of us. Both divorced. We are in our early fifties. I am in fairly good shape, very sporty, decent diet with the occasional night of a few drinks and a takeaway, but mainly lots of healthy food and have cut right back on sugar earlier this year. Well woman check last year showed everything to be good, the only medication I am on is HRT, otherwise I would be homicidal. Don't quote me on that 😂

Fiance has high cholesterol and is borderline diabetic. It keeps pushing over into type 2 numbers but then goes back down, The GP is checking it once a year, which I personally don't feel is enough. He has been on a statin for nearly 18 months and it got his number right now from 6.5 to somewhere in the just under 4 region, which is brilliant. Howwwwwwever, a few things are happening.. still happening.... and he is so stubborn about taking advice and taking care of himself that I am on the brink of ending the engagement.

His sugar and fat consumption are ridiculous. They have been for many years since before we met, so it's nothing to do with me or my behaviours. Despite knowing he has high cholesterol and is on the statin, it's almost as if taking the statin leaves him free to just consume as much saturated fat still as he wants. He fries chips in beef dripping, which he hasn't changed in over 2 years, he refuses to drink semi-skimmed milk, eats entire packets of salami for lunch, washed down with a pint of full fat milk, pours all the fat from meat onto his plate, even if he has grilled bacon, he pours the fat onto his bread. This is why his cholesterol was 6.5. I've tried to explain to him that the statin is getting the number down, but ideally he should do it himself. My Uncle had the same issue and we helped him change his diet and he didn't need a statin in the end.

He refuses to change and makes vomiting sounds and pulls a face when I put skimmed milk into my tea.... which leads me onto..... his sugar consumption. When I met him, he was putting 4 heaped spoons of sugar into his tea, which he makes super strong in quite a small mug, no teapot in sight... and of course puts full fat milk into it. He drinks over 10 to 15 cups a day like this, sometimes coffee, which he puts lots of sugar into as well. If a packet of biscuits are in his house, he will eat them all. Same thing for a cake meant to feed a family.. think the Asda boxed cakes. He has a compulsion to finish them.

I know a fair bit about diabetes as I lost a good friend to complications of the disease, and I hate to go on about it, but I suppose I'm trying to make him realise that yes, he could lose a leg, his eyesight, his kidneys could pack up. Right now his kidney function is OK, but if he keeps on keeping on, it won't be. His blood sugar is 47, which I believe is right at the top end of the borderline range. He has cut back the sugar in his tea, but is still consuming half a jar of jam per day on bread, smeared with thick butter. Yesterday he finished a large jar of jam that he only bought 2 days ago.

His attitude is that there is a pill for it and if he does get diabetes, he will be OK if he just takes it. I've tried to explain what can happen on that pill, and that your pancreas can eventually give up and you end up on insulin for the rest of your life.... or worse. He says he will do something about it if it gets worse, but this is already the 11th hour in my mind, or for anyone with an ounce of common sense about their health.

The latest development is he has jaundice in his eyes, which I noticed a few days ago. He noticed it too. He also has blurred vision. Of course it can mean many things. But the statin could be damaging his liver, it could be a bile issue, something else. But jaundice should never be ignored. I've urged him to see a GP. He hasn't made an appointment. He also has extreme fatigue that seems to be getting worse and worse. I almost drove him to A&E yesterday as I was so worried.

I'm sure I don't even need to mention the ED that happens due to diabetes, but he doesn't even seem bothered about getting the number down for that. I thought that might sway him, a reason to change, but it hasn't.

Today I have decided to back off. I woke up and felt so angry that he doesn't care enough about our shared future to take care of himself better. I'm starting to feel like his mother and not his partner and that's not what a relationship is about.

My daughter, middle child, is eloping and has asked me along. To Las Vegas and the Little White Wedding Chapel. The grooms mum cant go so just me and my husband...her step dad (dad deceased) so I'm very honoured. Probs the only one of my 3 to get married looking ahead. She's wearing the attached. It's her in the dress and accessories just AI background. In the UK the mother of the bride would normally wear a pretty dress/jumpsuit and a fascinator of sorts. What would you suggest for LV for me that might compliment her aesthetic? It will be in May. I will be 54. A size 12-14. Mousey blond highlighted collar bone length hair. I prefer dresses to trousers. I have a tattooed left arm and I would like a covered back. I have some ideas I'm just not sure so i am open to what others might have as ideas! Thank you!

My three year old has this tendency to repeat the same phrase over and over, working herself up into a complete state with it irrespective of what my reaction is. So for instance if she wants a drink she’ll just keep repeating I want a drink, I want a drink, and will just keep saying it over and over getting increasingly loud and desperate and frantic until I give her a drink.

The problem is that I really struggle with it and eventually it makes me snap and then I lose it, roaring and screaming at her and saying things I don’t mean. We just had it in the car on the way back from somewhere. She dropped something and started screaming for it and I couldn’t do anything about it and twenty minutes on she was still at it and I just broke.

I tried Loop earplugs and they did nothing. It’s awful and it doesn’t happen a lot but I end up feeling terrible and she’s upset and it’s just horrible.

Just finished my first 2.5mg Mounjaro pen, 5mg pen on the way this week. Have bought extra needles and swabs to facilitate short dosing/extending pen usage - but also have a golden dose in my existing pen, and have had some thoughts about possible contamination risk if using a higher dose pen for many weeks.

So, thinking bout going the insulin syringe route. What length of needles do people use for those? The pen needles I was supplied with are 4mm, so that’s what I’ve bought more of to use with the pens. But are those sufficient if using an insulin syringe to extract the dose from the pen?

Genuine question (I have no skin in the game and have no particular opinion either way) but how many people use playpens these days

yabu never used a playpen
yanbu have used a playpen

I was watching Olivia Atwood The Price of Perfection.

It got me thinking about the amount of beauty treatments are normal these days and whether they really make much difference.

I get my hair cut and coloured twice a year
Nails BIAB every 3 weeks
Brows threaded and tinted every 3 weeks
I I use Dermatica every night and a basic Nivea night cream
I use La Roche Posay serum every morning along with a Nivea moisturiser. Did buy an under eye caffeine cream but it doesn’t make any difference in my opinion
i now use brow serum each night to try to thicken my eyebrows
i fake tan once a week and moisturise with E45 lotion the rest of the week
I I wash my hair twice a week and straighten it I use heat protection and I also put on hair masks when I wash my hair
I wear make up 3 times a week
I use a collagen face mask once in a while when I can be bothered.

It seems like a lot writing on it all down, I’ve never had any cosmetic procedures. I don’t think my body is in to bad shape but y face is collapsing a bit. I’m 42.

Most of my winter trousers are now wide-leg or barrel, which don't seem to go with the long parka shape of winter coat I've been wearing for years. What to wear instead??

NEED big secure pockets for phone, tissues, poo bags etc, which has been the main stumbling block on those I've found so far.

Will mostly be used on dog walks, shopping, casual. Showerproof.

Thanks for any ideas!

Anyone seen the new trailer released yesterday? I’m so excited for Christmas, it looks amazing.

Now it is a drama about how the Israeli security services deal with the conflict but it is apparently pretty accurate and is amazingly well produced and acted.

Season 5, which covers Oct 7th has just come out after a long delay.

I've had to take a break after episode 7 because it's so distressing but it still doesn't even come close to what happened that day.

I think it's gives a clearer idea as to the truth of what has been going on and it does try to give a perspective from both sides.

I think every pro-Palestinian should watch it.

AIBU?

Over my many years on here, there have been many threads about the yumminess of Longley Farm cottage cheese. I am a big fan, and fairly local.

Anyway, I thought you low fat, high protein fans would like this video of Jimmy Longley being interviewed on Radio Leeds https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1HPVmjazb5/?mibextid=wwXIfr

I'm pretty sure I already know what this means but I can't talk to anyone close right now because I don't have the energy.
Husband got asked to comply with a paternity test request from abroad. It was issued via a solicitor's office by post. I know the requestor, or at least have met her before some years ago. One of those times she was pregnant and she and her husband were so happy.

He denies everything and refuses to engage and says he doesn't have to.
I don't know why I am even writing this. I somehow already know that it's probably true and that he'll never admit it.

What age is appropriate to explain periods/menstrual cycle to daughter?

I have a 7 year old daughter and a 5 year old son. In the swimming pool changing room bathroom today they saw the free period products on the sink and asked what they are.

I gave a non committal answer in that moment because I wanted more time to think how I respond, and also we were running a bit late for their lesson.

I figure there’s no reason why I can’t tell them - it’s part of life etc. I’m just not sure of the best way to phrase it.

And I’m leaning towards tailoring the answer per child, giving my seven year old daughter a bit more info…?

The Jehovahs Witnesses come to my house every 6 weeks or so. It's annoying for various reasons but lets just say I work nights and am sometimes asleep in the day. The last time they came I told them not to come back and was told I'd be put on a list, like I've been naughty or something.

They've been deviating from their usual pattern of Saturday morning recently and they've come back today, they bypassed my house!! There really is a List! So if you don't want to be disturbed then ask to go on the list 😁

On the Style and Beauty page is a discussion about a 12 yr old girl wearing mascara to school. A number of posters argued that school rules were ridiculous and that mascara doesn’t interfere with learning and therefore they would not enforce school rules on their children.

Having watched the news this morning about Prince George and Eton and the uniform rules there, I wondered if parents who disagreed with state school rules would feel differently if their child was given a sponsored all expenses place at a prestigious private school where there were fantastic work opportunities on leaving the school.

So, would it make a difference?
Would you accept the place at the prestigious school and obey strict uniform rules if it meant opportunities for your child?

I am keen to try aqua aerobics (I last did it years ago!). Very self conscious wearing a swim suit. Do you think one of these would be suitable?

Swim Playsuit / Romper suit
I know a lot of leisure centres (including mine) are trying to be more flexible with their swimwear policy to be more inclusive. The policy mentions shorts/leggings and swim dresses. TIA

I am in my 50s. I am dating a man who is a bit hopeless.but we go to events together, like ballet and the opera

I said to him a few weeks ago that I had tickets for a ballet this weekend if he wanted to come. He did not reply. It is also my birthday next week and he said he was not able to think of something to do this weekend as he had too much else to think about - this really related to a weekend in Rome for him and his daughter that I had paid for but he was stressed about: he’s been now and had a ball but not mentioned next weekend since he’s been back this week.

I obviously have the tickets, and have booked a hotel room for myself as well as a nice meal.
He has not yet asked about the weekend and what I am doing, but would I be unreasonable to tell him that he had his chance and I have booked a night just for me?

Free school meals but buying a drink only.

dd has just started secondary school and under the new FSM rules, she can now get free school lunches as we get UC as a top up, as can my son who’s year 11. Always paid before.

for context, my partner works, I don’t, both children have SEN, get DLA etc. this is the first time we’ve been eligible for free lunches.

I am sure it will be very helpful for ds but dd does not want to eat the food though. Although not officially diagnosed I believe she has emetophobia as well as anxiety, autism etc and over the last 12 months food has become more and more of a problem with her. Not wanting to eat at school, limited diet - this has increased with age whereas my son’s eating has got better with age. dd now takes a pack lunch with some safe foods.

however, she’s expressed that she may want to buy a drink at school - she does get really thirsty. I find it crazy how it’s water only at primary then at secondary they have a huge selection of drinks! She will drink water but it’s still warm.

will it be frowned upon if her FSM balance will just be used on drinks?

obviously it’s for food but she won’t eat it. She’s also gone through phases of not drinking at school, worried about needing the toilet - so if she drinks something at school it’s a win imo.

the school aren’t very forthcoming when it comes to answering questions about it.

Hi all, this evening I decided to go for a walk as I’m struggling with my MH and anxiety - namely health anxiety. I was walking down a quiet street past a hedge when I felt something impact the side of my forehead. I was confused and thought something had been thrown at me but it appeared something flew off past me very quickly. I didn’t see what it was but due to the time I’m going to guess it was a bat.

My skin has no bleeding or wounds and I don’t think I was bitten or scratched by it.

However, I’m now completely beside myself. Google is telling me to call 111 for rabies advice but I text a few family members about it who seem to think it’s just funny and this is an over reaction, and my partner thinks the same.

i have extreme health anxiety so this is just a complete nightmare to me.

AIBU to panic over this?

Me and DH are married 7 years.
We have a 5 year old DD, DD and DH constantly clash. He thinks it's funny winding her up but she often gets upset about it and he sometimes wont stop until she is in tears. Like let me be clear its mostly just childish stuff like taking the cup he knows she likes things like that he will always give it back to her but he seems to enjoy seeing her get annoyed which is starting to become a red flag for me.
Anyway over the last 2 days DD has being trying to do a cartwheel.... she thinks she can do a cartwheel (she cannot do a cartwheel and does not want advice on how to do a cartwheel she wants to do it "herself") she has been practicing and practicing. When she asks me to watch her I will find something positive, "well done you are working really hard at that" "woah that one was much higher" etc etc. But DH just keeps going "that's not a cartwheel" and keeps giving her unwanted advice and putting on videos of kids doing actual cartwheels which is annoying and upsetting DD and today she again ended upnin tears and DH just seems so unapologetic about it.
He says he doesn't want her to be "delusional" but at her age I wanted to be a bloody unicorn 5 year olds are allowed to be delusional.
He thinks I'm being too soft I think he's being an arsehole. AIBU?

This could be a long one so apologies. I'm genuinely really struggling knowing what to do. I have so much on my plate, I feel completely exhausted and burnt out and keep going through all options in my head and not really coming to a conclusion.
Firstly, my circumstances are I am a self employed cleaner with my own business - don't hire staff but make enough to keep us comfortable. My husband is disabled, which is progressing so also carer for him. He is very good and helps as much as he can but is finding it more difficult so I'm picking up more at home (I have absolutely no problem with this, I know he's also struggling mentally with this as he wants to help more) have 1 high needs SEN daughter with PTSD from school experiences that I am also carer for (she defaults to me as her safe person, again her dad steps in as and when but she struggles to let anyone else close) have a younger daughter, also suspected SEN (on pathways for assessments) at home so the care for her currently falls to dad. One older son that has moved out but again, SEN so has regular check ins to make sure he's eating, drinking, showering etc with the occasional meal dropping off to him (again, his dad picks up the slack for this a lot of the time but is finding it increasingly difficult) on top of this I also have a heart condition that needs yearly monitoring.
I am absolutely exhausted and realise something needs to give. I currently only work 3 days a week and have 5 clients, but on top of everything else I think it's pushing me over the edge. I don't want to give up work, I've been working since I was 14 with a small gap to raise the kids and only took the minimum maternity. I also feel a sense of duty to my clients, I've been with them a long time and hate to let anyone down. I've looked at dropping one or two but worry about the money side of it. At the moment what I earn goes towards Birthdays, Christmas and treats. It worries me with the loss of income. Every time I almost come to a solution I get a "oh but" moment and talk myself back out of it. Realistically I know something needs to give... Does anyone have any advice. I honestly can't think and my head is spinning

Ballerinas are supposedly in again. I have these shoes from around 2010-2013, are they wearable again? I have them in a few colours, I used to find them very comfortable. I know I can wear what I want but I want to be vaguely fashionable. Are they fashionable again or can you clearly see that they are 15 year old shoes?